Self-love is a magical thing but sometimes it’s hard to actually figure out how to invite more self-love into our lives. What I want to propose here is that self-love is not something we have to figure out or find-- it is something we must remember and reclaim. I have found, through my own personal exploration and working with other women, that self-love lives in the body. And when I say body I mean those primal, instinctual, wild sensations that circulate throughout it. Have you ever felt a sense of buzzing beneath your skin? A vibration running through your entire being? A throbbing or pulsation after moving your body, sweating, or making love? That’s the kind of sensation I’m talking about. Self-love lives there: in the realization that our senses are our wisest teacher, full of authentic, transformative power. We must invoke these senses to experience the kind of well-rounded, invigorating and empowering self-love that we are so thirsty for.
I’m going to be bold here and also proclaim that it is through our sexuality that we as women can connect deeply with and remember our sacred feminine energy. I actually don’t feel bold saying that but I know for many women (as it was for me for a loooooong time) sexuality is something to be hidden or sometimes ashamed of. I used to think that I would no longer be the “cute girl” I was deemed if I embraced my sexuality. So what shifted for me? When did I begin to embrace my sexuality instead of tuck it away in a corner? When I remembered that sexuality doesn’t just encompass sex-- it is much more layered than that. Sexuality is a dynamic force that drives our passions, inspiration, creativity, relationships and authenticity. It is not just the act of sex but much more than that-- it is the creative fire that burns deep within our bellies, the force that moves us to sway our hips on the dance floor, the divine essence that taps us into the watery qualities of our being. Sexuality is the culmination of all the elements, which live without and within us. As Tom Robbins writes in Skinny Legs and All:
“This was sacred sex, conducted with ceremony and in full consciousness, meant to mime the act of original Creation, to celebrate life at its most intense and crucial moment. We’re not talking the old in-and-out, slip-slap here, Miss Spoon, we’re talking the ignition of the old divine spark.”
Sexuality is creation- it is the reason we are all here. Can you do something with me? Place your hands over your belly, your womb space. Do you feel that? That potential for creation? As women we are blessed with the gift of creation. Whether we choose to create a human life or not, we are the definition of creation whether that creation manifests in the form of life, art, ideas or inspiration. We are all powerhouses capable of some pretty incredible sh*t. What we need to do to access that magic is remember our own unique sexuality. We need to release restricting stories of what we were told sexuality is and reclaim what it truly means to us. We need to feel wild and primal and untamed. We need to get back to our beginnings.
So, ladies, here are three ways to reclaim your divine feminine energy: pleasure, sensuality and luxury. All of these can be applied inside the bedroom and outside the bedroom, making for a steamy experience wherever you are ;)
Stepping into things that give us pleasure can seem like, duh why wouldn’t I do that, yet we don’t do it often enough. Maybe we think we don’t have enough time. Maybe to-do lists get in the way. Maybe we feel guilty doing something pleasurable. Well, I am giving you permission to release any of those stories and fully engage in what gives you pleasure. When we allow ourselves pleasure we fuel our creativity, inspiration and overall sense of joy. We actually become more efficient because we have satisfied our deepest desires and created space by doing so. Pleasure is like food for our soul. Our inner wise woman is ravenous for pleasure. When we do something that gives us pleasure we are present with ourselves and our desires. This is like the key that unlocks the door to the room where our divine feminine is hanging out. She comes out to play in the world of pleasure and we get to feel all radiant, glowing and embodied.
What gives you pleasure? Getting all hot and heavy with yourself or your partner in the bedroom? Cooking and eating a feast of some of your favorite foods? Taking a walk through the forest and savoring all the gifts nature has to offer? Going to a live show and dancing your ass off?
Move toward what gives you pleasure and away from what doesn’t feel so good. It is the ultimate reclamation of our feminine energy. It’s a practice, for sure, but I promise that it will reward you with some juicy gifts.
Sensation, the magic ingredient behind all yummy experiences. Sensation is the body’s wisdom manifested. Sensation has the power to anchor us in our bodies, bringing up deeper into the present moment and showing us clearly our changing rhythms. Simply becoming aware of sensation in the body can create a powerful shift. Ask yourself in any given moment, What does my internal temperature feel like? Are there any pieces of tension hanging out in parts of my body? Do I feel any sense of buzzing or vibration? Where does it feel tight? Relaxed? Soft? Free? Notice your body’s reaction to different states, movements or situations you encounter throughout your day.
When you saturate a moment with sensation, barriers start to dissolve. Discoveries are made. Veils are lifted and you arrive closer to your truth. Feelings—whether yummy or funky-tasting—bubble to the surface instead of being skimmed over with speed. The eruption of sensation allows you to start to slip into the space between your thoughts. You find yourself moving into, rather than through, the sticky parts of life that may not be so comfortable. But comfortable or not, you eventually find yourself savoring both the sticky and sweet moments. Because guess what? Whether sweet or spicy, soft or hard, every sensation is a part of your grand experience and adds to the flavors of your femininity. Simply discovering your multi-layered, multi-flavored being is a beautiful thing. As Meghan Currie says:
“Our most shaky and vulnerable calibrations and situations are a sign that Here is an opportunity to grow-- that a deep cleanse and reorganization of our patterns is erupting-- as old thresholds collapse and possibility can breathe us bigger.”
I love the word luxurious. It brings up the image of a Goddess wrapped in silks, adorned in gold jewels, and soaking in a bath filled with rose petals. Even just bringing words like luxurious, decadence and indulgence into your vocabulary can begin to stir up your sacred feminine energy. Feeling luxurious doesn’t mean you need to spend a bunch of money or travel to far away places. Taking a bath with olive oil, essential oils and a candle by your side can do the trick. Reading all day in bed without any plans can be extremely luxurious, especially if you lead a busy lifestyle. Self-care is an easy yet profoundly sacred way to reclaim your sexuality and feminine energy. Self-care can manifest in many ways: meditation, a bath, or sitting in a quiet space with candles, incense and crystals. Oils are incredibly luxurious and using them for self-massage not only nourishes the skin in a natural way but also allows us to experience the healing art of touch. What can you do today that feels luxurious, that has you feeling all Queen-like? Take a few minutes or more to love yourself up in that way! Even dedicating just ten minutes to self-care can renew, restore and reinvigorate our systems.
However you begin to strengthen the relationship with your feminine energy, be it these tips or any other practice, always remind yourself that it is there-- it being that ancient wisdom that has been infused into each one of our beings. You are a goddess. You are scary powerful and capable and influential. Just look at the myths and meanings of goddesses from all different cultures. Her story illuminates the fact that we are her. Her story is your story. We are all connected by the beautiful feminine energy present in the light of the moon, in the soil of the earth, in the current of our breath, in our bodies. Her strong, ancient voice is calling to you. Heed that call.
Interested in working with or connecting with Sarah? Here is a little bit more from her and the driving force behind her dynamic ability to enhance sacred feminine energy:
This is what it's all about: creating sacred space both within and without. This work is about diving deep within that space to experience the authentic essence of joy, beauty, inspiration and creation. It's about shedding any layers of build up or unnecessary information. It's about digging deep so we can get to know our inner wise woman. In the society we live in today it can be hard to slow down and engage in the type of self-care we need and crave.
Self-care is the single most important act we can engage in to nourish and nurture our soul-self but often times it can get buried in to-do lists, schedules, commitments, and everything else that piles up on our plate.
I am passionate about heightening your level of self-care so you can create a meaningful relationship with your body and court your inner muse.Ladies, are you ready to date yourself on the daily? Let me tell you, it's the best thing ever.
Check out her website: sarahdiedrick.com