Pes-si-mism: the tendency to anticipate the worst possible outcome to situations or events, and think in limiting and restrictive ways.
The power of the mind is profound. Consider the saying, "Whether you think you can, or think you can't, you are right." We can literally be self limiting when we get caught up in a negative or pessimistic outlook on life. Pessimism makes life more difficult than it really is and harder than it needs to be. Why in the world would we want to make life more difficult? Well, we wouldn't, consciously that is. Pessimists even seem to be pessimistic about how pessimistic they are. This is a perpetual cycle of dead ends and disappointment. And how many pessimists end up desiring the things they fear in order to prove that they are right?
However you want to look at it: - whether you see the glass as half full or half empty - whether when life gives you lemons you decide to just keep the lemons OR you decide to make lemonade - whether you look at a challenging situation as impossible OR if you look at it as an opportunity - whether you believe that if you jump the net will appear OR not - whether you decide to get back up when you "fail" OR not - whether you even look at "failing" as a "fail" OR rather as an opportunity to learn and grow - whether or not you are able to accept that if you change the way you look at things - the things you look at CHANGE...
These outlooks are decisions we make and ultimately determine how our lives actually turn out. The kid who continually is told or who feels as though they will fail, inevitably, WILL fail. If you do not believe that you can do something, then you never will. If you are afraid to fail, you will never take risks - that leap of faith which is necessary to find success and fulfillment in your life. It helps if others believe in you, but the only important thing is that YOU believe in YOURSELF because in the end that is the only being whom is responsible for the outcome. If you project love, light and beauty - you will receive that back. It is all about perspective and our realization that we, in fact, create our own reality. If you project blame, insecurity, anger, resentment and doubt - you are likely to receive this in return. Think wisely about how you spend your energy and be conscious of your projections and intentions.
"Realism is for pessimists. An optimist creates his own reality." - David Harley
If you want to be pissed off because someone put you down or was very discouraging in your desire to attempt something, you are wasting an enormous amount of your precious energy. What other people think doesn't matter. "If your dreams don't scare you, they aren't big enough" is one of my favorite sayings. Your dreams SHOULD scare you. You SHOULD challenge yourself. The truth is your dreams scare others and that is why they choose to discourage you due to their own pessimistic outlook and the fact that they, themselves do not have the COURAGE. Have compassion for them. Hope for them that one day they may see the world as you do: full of beauty, passion and opportunity.
DREAM BIG. GO CREATE....and do not wait. Every passing moment is an OPPORTUNITY.